Be a Builder
The Coach's Corner
Published Oct. 19, 2011 @ midnight
I saw a group of men in my hometown.
I saw a group of men tearing a building down.
With a heave and a ho and a mighty yell,
They swung a beam and the sidewalk fell.
And I said to the foreman, "Are these men skilled.
The type you'd hire if you wanted to build?"
And he laughed and said, "Why, no indeed."
He said, Common labor's all I need.
For I can tear down in a day or two
What it took a builder years to do."
And I thought to myself as I walked away,
"Which of these roles am I going to play?
Am I the type that constantly tears down
As I make my way, foolishly, around?
Or am I the type that's trying to build with care,
In hopes that my organization will be glad I was there?"
In athletics, it is common to talk about character and how participating in athletics can build character. I believe this is true, but only to a small degree. What I have really found is that athletics reveals character. Throw a little adversity at a group and see how they react.
You know you have it made as a team when the players bond together and work as a team through hard times and discouragement. It equally becomes a concern when fingers start to point, and excuses get made. It is easy to determine, and hard to admit, but builders are true winners and the takers are just life's common laborers, good for tearing down, and will not leave a legacy to be proud of.
The same goes for life, and in our jobs, our families, and our relationships. Look for builders and positive people to surround yourself. Strive to be a person of character. When hard times hit, be the rock that can be counted on and not one who tears it down.
There is an awesome example I like to share. It is a story of when Dr. David Livingstone was in the wilds of Africa to begin his now famous mission work for the Church of England.
After Dr. Livingstone had begun his now famous missionary work in Africa, a certain group wrote the great pioneer and asked: "Have you found a good road to where you are? If so, please advise. We'd like to send others to assist you."
Dr. Livingstone sent this reply: "If you have those who will come only if they know there is a good road, I don't want them. I want individuals who are strong and courageous; those who will come and build roads if there is no road at all!"
Courage is performing the task that would be easier not to do. Courage is accepting the responsibilities when it would be more comfortable not to accept. It's moving out on faith, when you know full well the risks and the pitfalls that will challenge you. It's marching ahead, blazing a new trail where there are no roads - and sometimes no maps to guide you.
Courage is accepting responsibility for ourselves and for those we have made commitments to. It is easy to choose to quit. It is easy to blame others for our failures. It takes no courage at all to complain, take the easy way out, or to not even try at all.
Courage asks, what can I do to help and to build? It is true in building a team, a relationship, a company, and even a family. No one assures that it will be easy. In fact you can guaranty there will be failures and adversity, but how we handle this determines our character and our success. Even if you lose a contest, it is your attitude that determines whether you are a winner or not.
I finish with, "5 Things Every Person Should Know".
Accept Your Power of Choice
Success is the intentional, pre-meditated use of choice and decision. Unless you choose-with certainty-what it is you want, you accept table scraps by default! The quality of your future years is largely determined by the quality of the choices you make when you are young.
Respect Reality - Face the Facts
True and accurate information is essential to success. Reality is the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Deny reality, and you will soon discover that life is a game of truth or consequences. Tell the truth and demand the truth from others, otherwise you're toast.
Take Responsibility - Make No Excuses
Excuses are convenient, temporary scapegoats. Sometime, somewhere and somehow they will come back and make things very uncomfortable. Dreams die under a burden of excuses; they are a character deficiency, which destroys your potential. Make a no excuses policy and stick to it!
Character Counts - Make it all Count
Everything you say, and do complements or compromises your character. Always do the right thing, because having character is much more important than being a character. When all is said and done, all a person has is their character and integrity nothing else really matters. Every thought, decision, and action moves you closer to or further from your goals. Look at it this way, if you spend an hour exercising you have just moved north towards a healthier life, if after, you drink alcohol, smoke or eat junk you have now gone south. If you avoid extra work, you are being outworked by an opponent somewhere and when you meet, they will beat you.
If You Build It We Will Win - Bold Gold
In our actions, our words and deeds, we daily make the choice to demolish or build. I hope and pray that those who mentor, teach, parent, and lead the youth of Post make the decision on a daily basis to build. I challenge each and everyone involved with a school age student to leave the well beaten road of mediocrity, criticism, apathy, negativity behind, and build a road into the hearts, minds and souls of our kids for a better community, school, home and life. BOLD GOLD!